Showing posts with label For a Cause. Show all posts
Showing posts with label For a Cause. Show all posts

February 11, 2014

A destroyed Childhood, A destroyed Life

"Amma I don't want to leave home"- the young girl said crying.
"Don't worry baby, Yellamma will take good care of you. Besides we too are here only. We will keep visiting you at the temple time-to-time"- the child's mother said consoling her.

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The 9 yr old Rina had just been told by her mother that she would be married off to Yellamma (the goddess of fertility)and will have to live in the nearby temple henceforth. Dedicating a girl child to the revered Yellamma had been a long followed tradition in the region, and it served many "purposes" of society as well as the family concerned. It was a kind of child marriage being done for a religious cause, but with an evil purpose in mind most of the times. Rina was a very fun-loving, chirpy, and innocent child. The thought of residing away from home saddened her a lot. She understood that her life will no longer be the same, but little did she realise how much her life is going to change forever....

5 days later the dedication (marriage) ceremony was being held with full religious rituals and procession. Rina was completely mesmerized by the wonderful preparations going on. She was loving the attention! She was being adorned with glittering bangles, gold ornaments and dresses which earlier she could only dream of ! Due to the eventful time, she had completely forgotten her sadness of being departed from her family. Later in the day, the dedication  ceremony was completed by the temple priest and she was adorned with a bright necklace made of white and red beads. She felt happy that day. Everyone was celebrating around her as if it were a great occasion and she seemed to be one of the reasons of the celebration. The day passed by. 

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"Amma I want to go back with you" - Rina told her mother when she noticed her leaving for home. "No baby, you live here only. You will get good food here, and the priest will treat you well." Her mother gave her some sweets to eat, and then left. She felt sad being departed from her mother, but very soon the temple priest and attendants started talking to her and somewhat sublimed her sadness. 

The days to come made her realize how harrowing her life was becoming. She was made to learn devotional songs, learn dance, and was told to clean the temple arena. She hated this routine. She was missing her usual playful times with her friends in the neighbourhood, when she had nothing to worry, no strict routine to follow. But slowly she got used to the life in temple. Time flew by and she had spent 3 yrs serving Yellamma now. One day her mother came and invited her to come along home. She happily went home. That evening her home was very eventful. Lots of good dishes were being prepared and the village landlord had come to have dinner. She was so happy to see the exciting events unfolding. Little  did she know that the coming night would be completely nightmarish, one which will change her life forever, one which will turn her life into a living hell! 

She had her dinner and went to sleep beside her mother. She was only half asleep when she noticed some stranger's hand on her body. She turned back in bed and was startled to find her mother missing from there. It was the village landlord instead! She was terrified. Her mind had gone numb. She screamed loudly for her mother, but no one responded to her repeated screams. She tried to leave the bed and run away, but the landlord overpowered her and made her completely immobile with his strength. She felt totally helpless. The devil showed no mercy and was all over her in no time. She profusely cried. Her entire body was aching. But more than her body, it was her mind which was completely shattered. 

She went running to her mother, and screamed at her- "Why, Why did you do this !!" Her mother tried to hug her, but she ran away. It was 10 PM in night. She went running out of her house and started sobbing after stopping a few metres ahead. Her mother came from behind and hugged her. 

"Please try to understand Rina, you are grown up now. It is our duty to serve goddess Yellamma. These all are  our sacred traditions which have been followed since ages. I too have been through the same stage that you are going through. But this is how it goes. We all should bow in front of Yellamma and do everything possible to please her. Please understand that your sacrifice is very important for everyone's happiness here"- her mother said trying to console her.
"I HATE YOU AMMA !" - Not convinced, Rina shouted at her mother, let go of her embrace and went a few feet away.

That night started a never ending trauma for her. A few days later, the landlord ordered her to come to his home. That landlord  had "bought" her by bidding the highest amount, and she was now coming to terms with the life of a Devadasi. Same month the landlord's brother took turn to rape her. She had nowhere to run, nowhere to go. When her mother herself didn't support, whom else she could turn to! She was totally broken. She had become an inanimate object. Sometimes she even thought of committing suicide but didn't act due to the thoughts of her 2 little sisters whose life had become dependant on the money earned by her. Time went by and she had a child now. A child which had no father! Now she realised why her mother couldn't give any satisfying explanation when she would ask her about her father. Her mother also was a former Devadasi. She was now caught up in a never-ending vicious circle of Devadasi life. Sometimes she feared if she also will have to dedicate her daughter due to utter poverty. She used to shudder at the thought of her little daughter too becoming a Devadasi.

At the age of 20, she was sold off to a brothel owner in Mumbai. Her life had turned hell now. But she was living for her two kids now. She wanted to give them a better life, a life which would be far away from the life of Devadasis. One day, with the help of a local NGO, she managed to escape from the clutches of those savages. Thanks to that NGO, she got daily wage worker's job at a construction site. The work was too tough and tiresome but she had decided, that no matter what, she won't let her children go through the same trauma that she had been through.....
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The story above is fictitious, but has stark resemblance to the real story of many Devadasis. For those who don't know, "Devadasi" is a combination of "Deva" and "Dasi", meaning "servant of God". In olden times, there used to be a practise of some females devoting their entire life to the service of God, by cleaning temples, singing devotional songs and participating in traditional folk dances. So it was more of a art and religious nature. Also, Devadasis used to be seen with utmost respect. But with time, the tradition took quite an ugly turn. Girls started getting married off to Yellamma at very young age, and thereafter they were never allowed to marry anyone in real life (because they are already married to divine power!). Also, this started being followed in two stage- dedication and deflowering. First the girl would be dedicated at early age, and then when she reaches puberty, she would get deflowered- a horrendous act which earlier used to be done by head priests, but later started getting done by anyone who could bid more!). The life of such Devadasis obviously turned hellish. Men will look at them lustily, taking them for granted for sex. If they will try to start a new life, no one will accept them, and they won't get employment. They will be looked down upon. Not only their, but even their children's life will become destroyed. Ultimately what would happen, is that , due to poverty and social stigma, they will be forced to devote even their children! So in most cases, it turned into a hereditary thing. Daughter of Devadasi would turn into a Devadasi too!
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This deplorable tradition mostly persists in the state of karnataka and Andhra Pradesh, by varying names. The tradition has been made illegal by law, so it is not carried out publicly and it is diminishing now. But despite the regulations, the practice still continues clandestinely. Most importantly, the ex-Devadasis find it hard to bring up their children. They are burdened with social stigmas, so they find it hard to make a living. Hence even the life of their children are endangered. Sometimes due to not able to bring up their children, they themselves make a decision to dedicate their own child(thinking that at least they will be able to survive)!
According to a 2006 data by National Commission for Women (source), the authority says there are 2.5 lakh "Devadasi" girls who have been dedicated to Yellamma and Khandoba temples on Maharastra-Karnataka border. This includes 16,624 from Andhra Pradesh, 22,941 from Karnataka and 2,479 from Maharastra. The Devadasi system is prevalent in 10 districts of north Karnataka and 14 districts in Andhra Pradesh.

The life of ex-Devadasi is pretty tough. But what I am more concerned about, is the lives of their children. This is where our role comes into play. We should help them settle down in society. They should be able to bring up their children properly, give them good education, so that this vicious circle ends. This is a two-pronged war. First help eradicate the superstition, and second, help the ex-devadasis come in the mainstream of society by helping them get jobs. 

As can be seen on the website of Milaap, some ex-Devasis have turned entrepreneurs, and are trying to come back to mainstream society by starting their own business. We should try to help them through our monetary lending (howsoever small). Remember we talk about helping budding entrepreneurs, why not help such entrepreneurs who need our help the most? Also, helping them will not only help them live a respectful life, but also ensure help transform endangered  childhood of their children into a good, bright life! So remember, it's also about saving a child's life. And won't you come forward to stop another Rina from becoming a Devadasi!! How will you feel if another innocent gild child is forced to become Devadasi and goes in the hand of savages? So why not come forward save two lives with your small lending. Remember, the money you are contributing now, is not donation, it's a loan, and will be paid back to you in a few months' time. So please come, join my hands in helping Muttavva Belanki by lending a little. 
Click on the link given below and make your contribution towards society,towards saving an innocent childhood. http://milaap.org/fund/muttavva-belanki-and-group/2034?&referrer_id=9029


July 08, 2010

Heart, Love and The Life


What is heart? According to medical dictionaries it is a chambered muscular organ that pumps blood received from the veins into the arteries, thereby maintaining the flow of blood through the entire circulatory system. 
Umm… Well.. it is something like blah blah blah.... for a boy like me.

According to me, heart is that single chambered part of body which circulates the feeling of love in one’s life.

Now the question arises that what actually love is? People will again define it in many ways. Some may define it as a pure feeling; some may relate it to sexual requirements. But according to me Love is a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person. This feeling can be towards any person, not only boyfriend or girlfriend. We love our friends, brother, parents….. & our parents love us. When we get out in rain or sun without any protection it makes our parents feel uneasy. When we simply sneeze, our parents start worrying about our health even if it is just simple seasonal cold.

Have you ever thought of those parents whose kids are suffering from some inborn disease or disorder which cannot be cured or which requires lakhs of money to be cured.

This post of mine is dedicated to a very sweet child I came across. I got to know about her through a tweet retweeted by the Great BigB(on his wedding anniversary day). Her name is Harshita Luthra. Date of birth 17th June 2007, 3 years old angel.


When I saw her video I got more curious to know about her. I called her father to know about the matter and then requested him to send all the related documents. Along with those docs, he sent some of her beautiful,adorable pics and then I was compelled to devote my time to save her life.

Doctors say that she is having some problem in her heart. Ummmm.. what they called it.. YES.. VSD (ventricular septal defect).. that means there is some problem with the wall (Ventricular septum) that divides the two chambers of heart. The doctors also said that there is some defect in her pulmonary artery & Aorta.

I don’t understand these medical terms. All I know is that she is having some serious,fatal birth defects in her heart. She is too young to die. And this innocent smiling beauty is not aware of her conditions. Her parents…. Huh…. I don’t have words to explain their condition…

But the good part of the story is that her life can be saved if her parents can arrange 70 LAKH RUPEES for her surgery. This surgery will take place at Childern’s Hospital, Boston. Hmmm.. So there is a ray of hope, isn’t it.. But 70 LAKH RUPEES.. BIG AMOUNT.. especially for a middle class family.. it is BIG BIG AMOUNT.. So now what.. what should we do ..? You all must be thinking that even I don’t have that much  money.. What can I do..? Right..?? Even I don’t have that much money.. But we can't let her die for this reason..

I just want to request all my readers to participate in saving her life.. even donation of 200 rupees each can make a big difference..

Click this link for a Report broadcast on NDTV -


To know all the details about this case (complete documents), plz visit-
http://shantihp.posterous.com/save-an-innocent-life 

I hope.. You will do as much as possible from your side..
For donating money—
Bank Account detail-
Account holder's name-   Amit Luthra
ICICI bank Acc. No.-      001701562005 , Adarsh nagar Branch, Jalandhar,Punjab, 144001 ,
IFSC CODE-                   ICIC0000273
Swift Code For out Country-    ICICINBBXXX

Paypal Account created with the email ID- luthrainbox@gmail.com

You may want to call Harshita's Father on this no.- 09781699996

Thanking You

Shanti

*DISCLAIMER: This post is not originally written by me. This was actually written by one of my friend. I just modified it a bit and posted it.

P.S.- 
*45 lacs INR has been collected in this Campaign, about 15 lacs INR more are required for Post-surgical recovery expenses.
*Today (on 4th August, at 4:30 pm, IST ), Harshita is undergoing her major Heart-Surgery in Boston. Let's hope and pray for her surgery to be successful and her to get well soon.
***Her Operation has been successfully performed by the concerned Doctors there :D (News update as on 5th August at 12:40 am, IST)
**** Harshita has been discharged from the Hospital (Updated as of 11th August, 7 am IST). Now she will remain there for a few weeks more(for regular medical check ups)
*****Harshita's father Mr. Amit Luthra is in USA right now, so you won't be able to reach him on his INDIAN Contact no. given above. You may call him on his USA no.- (001 617 922 4662 ), or, if you are not able to reach him, then for any clarifications/info you may contact me instead.

*******Harshita has been suspected to be suffering from another minor problem. Doctors suspect some problem in her 'mitral valve'. So their stay in USA have been extended by one month. Her next check up is on 20th October. Let's hope for the Best.......
*********The Latest update is that Doctors have confirmed leakages in some parts of her heart. Doctors there have suggested another surgery after about 6 months and she will have to undergo similar surgeries after every 5 years till she turns adult. The parents seem to have been into a long drawn battle to save their daughter. Let's Hope their determined struggle finally bears fruit and Harshita gets perfectly fine in near future.

**Update (as of 23-01-11)- Harshita's dental surgery needs to be done which will be followed by her Heart's surgery in a few months. Large sums of amount needed again. Efforts are on to raise funds for that. You too can contribute for the cause. THANKS

March 27, 2010

Save his Life please


Hello friends,


I am writing this blog to draw your attention to the plight of my friend's condition who is undergoing a very crucial stage of his life fighting with a very rare disease called "Budd-Chiari syndrome". It is a very rare disease,in fact it occurs only in 1 out of 100,000 individuals.

My friend's family has been going around different parts of the country for the last 8 months, for the specialized treatment of this disease.

His problem started with complaints of pain in abdomen, vomiting and then difficulty in breathing and Chest pain.
In two different Hospitals he was diagnosed with liver abscess(pus-filled mass inside or attached to the liver )

He was also diagnosed with having Pleural effusion. Pleural effusion is excess fluid that accumulates in the pleural cavity, the fluid-filled space that surrounds the lungs. Excessive amounts of such fluid can impair breathing by limiting the expansion of the lungs during inhalation.
The excessive fluid created was then artificially drained out and a chest tube was placed inside the pleural space for further removal of the excess fluid formed(which is used to remove at least 250-800 ml of liquid daily)

CT of upper abdomen was suggestive of Hepatic vein thrombosis (Budd-Chiari syndrome)

Portal Venography showed abnormality in the IVC(inferior vena cava) and hence the patient was referred to the specialized centre- SGPGI,Lucknow.

There the disease was diagnosed as Acute Budd-Chiari syndrome (along with some more problems like pleural effusion).

The final conclusion of Doctors there noted following problems-


*Hepatic vein thrombosis with distended azygous and hemiazygous veins.


*Total occlusion of IVC with suprarenal segment.


*Grade 2 varices(now (as of 27-04-10), it has advanced to Grade 3), mild PHG(Portal hypertensive gastropathy).

Ultimately, at SGPI Lucknow, the patient was advised to go for Liver transplant at a centre of own choice.

The patient was then taken to Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, New Delhi.
But there the doctors ruled out the possibility of transplanting liver because the patient's IVC and iliac vein was completely occluded(see Dr's report).

And then the patient was moved to medanta medicity(Gurgaon) for that purpose.There a Radiology examination was done(see its copy)on March 6,2010.

On March 9,2010 the Hospital issued a note of information(or say certificate) saying that the patient was suffering from Budd-Chiari syndrome and he needed the placement of TIPPS(Trans Jugular Intra Hepatic Porta Systemic Shunt) along with IVC stenting. It also said that this intervention needs to be done urgently for his survival and stated the approximate cost of treatment as 6 lacs.

You can see all the relevent medical Certificates/records by clicking here

Now, the financial condition of the family is not good, his father is no more there and his mother is a Housewife, besides they have already spent lots of money in the patient's treatment in the last 8 months, going for different private Hospitals in the Country.
So they are unable to arrange such a large amount(about 6 lacs) in such a short time span(just 20 days).

So please donate whatever amount you can. Remember you are contributing towards saving someone's life.

Thank you so much...


P.S.-

*Now, We have with us, the required amount. So now we are stopping to receive any further contributions. Thank you so much for your support...

**Rahul's Surgery/Operation had been done successfully by Dr. S.S. Baijal and right now he is going Great in his life. He has been re-admitted in NIT Jamshedpur with the new batch and he is carrying on with his regular studies.
THANKS





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