Relationships
are mysterious things.... Sometimes I start wondering why do we even need it.
Why can't we be happy without it. Why do we always need a relationship to keep
us happy. It's like our happiness lies in relationships. It's like someone else
drives our life. :/
We
are always in search of someone(well, if not always, most of the times, for one
reason or the other.) The search may not actually be intentional and directed,
but our emotional state of mind is such that, it always wants to connect to
someone. That's where I start wondering as to why can't we be content with
ourselves! Ohh, it may look weird for sure, for being happy with our own self
would surely be quite a insane looking idea. But then as Osho says-
"Aloneness
is beautiful. It has an elegance around it, a grace, a climate of tremendous
satisfaction. Aloneness is SHEER
independence. One feels as if one is one's whole world, one's whole
existence...."
Does
it sound weird? :)
Well
anyway, I was wondering how we keep going through a cycle of varying
relationships and the accompanying emotional states. It seems so fascinating if you look at it
from a distance. We always seem to be in an emotional-crisis-state, always looking
out for some emotional solace from others! If we don't get someone, we get
disheartened, and if we do get, then it gets so lively! Curious thing is
that it always keeps going in a perpetual motion, never-ending cycle.
One
thing that is quite worrying, is the discontentment caused by relationships (or
desire of it?). It always takes us through such a roller-coaster kind of
emotional ride. Sometimes we get enlivened up after interacting with someone,
and sometimes we may even go in an emotional black hole! Relationships affect
our lives to such a great extent that it virtually controls our happiness. We
get happiness from relationships. A good relationship can be a great source of
happiness for us. Being with that someone special can bring immense joy in our
life. Relationships are always such a precious thing to cherish.
But
then relationships cause emotional pains too. Not being able to be with
someone, not being able to get close to someone.... these can cause great
discontent and loneliness. We have our desires, our choices, our aspirations,
and we get disheartened if we are not able to get into the desired
relationships. It seems so worrying how much discontent these issues can
cause. And there seem no way out to
address this problem (is it really a problem?).
Are
relationships the problem, or are our desires the problem? I am still
wondering.....
